Some days I feel like the most attractive man on the planet, other days I feel like the idea that a women is attracted to me is unfathomable. My brain is completely fucked and I feel like the only way to fix it is if i were to get somewhere with a girl. If I had just one success it would set me straight. I feel so lonely despite doing all the basic advice like lift, get outside in the sun, playing sports, doing stuff i enjoy, hanging out with friends etc. and while all that makes me feel better in the moment, I still feel like this afterwards.
Not asking for advice necessarily, just venting cause I have nowhere else to do so
@joyboy I once felt like this. I was a bit spergish, socially atypical, so I missed a lot of subtle social signs and cues that "normal" people take so much for granted that they are invisible. It took a LOT of work and study, from paper books because the internet was still a gleam in Al Gore's eye; but I finally hit a social stride.
If I had just one success it would set me straight. If I had just one success it would set me straight.
Careful with this. It subconsciously sets you up to fail, largely by investing so much hope into every next potential relationship that all vestiges of healthy DGAF and abundance mentality go out the window. People can totally sense this, and it's rightfully off-putting.
Venting is good in the right measure; it can help you let go of anger and sexual/social frustration. After the venting, though, you do really need to get back in the game and grind your way toward the successes you imagine for yourself. It feels contrived at first, but becomes natural and second nature as you internalize feeling worthy of sexual and social success.
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I’m not doing much at the moment. I don’t have the motivation to go out at night and run hundreds of approaches. My only interactions with girls is customers at my job or the occasional girl on tinder since my profile activity has gone down quite a bit recently
Damn grinding feels good. I'm completely focused on money and not talking to any girls right now, started my new job. I'll put a portion of my paycheck towards high risk investments, while saving the rest so that I can move out as soon as possible. Money is freedom and freedom is money
Can't seem to break out of this cycle. I thought getting a job would take my mind off things but when I see a cute girl while I'm working it just completely ruins my mood for the rest of the day. Like I literally have a physical reaction, my stomach starts to hurt and I start feeling sick.
I did a group interview for a different part time position and there was a super cute girl there. I struck up a conversation with her and she was really nice, all smiling and shit making eye contact and it felt good in the moment and then after I felt like shit and resentful thinking about how some guy gets to fuck her. Things aren't looking too good
@joyboy One of the pillars of RP Praxeology is Becoming one's own mental point of origin. For whatever reason, it sounds like you're all up inside your own head about what other people have and don't have, and getting all viscerally worked up over nothing but abstractions, unfulfilled wishes, and covert contracts.
Work on the things you can control, then move outward from there. This is one of the reasons we ask, Do you even lift? Physical fitness requires focus and stick-toitiveness. The structure and discipline involved adapt into other areas of life.
@MentORPHEUS Lifts are in profile. I'm aesthetic and lift heavy so that's not the problem. It's mostly a mindset thing
@Vermillion-Rx I already have male friends. Not really sure how to make female friends other than joining some dance/yoga groups, but I think those are mostly older women who I don't think would be interested in being friends with a early 20s guy cause what would we even have in common
@Typo-MAGAshiv I mean yeah I could've tried but I was getting friendly vibes from her, she didn't seem attracted or interested in that way but yeah I should've escalated. I just didn't want it to be awkward in case she rejected me and we both got hired
@Vermillion-Rx I mean I had a few in high school but I didn't really try to make friends with them, they came to me. Also I think they were trying to get with me, since they would always be flirting with me and stuff but I wasn't attracted so i didn't do anything about it. But it's not like im totally socially inept